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  • How I Kept Up With Meditation For An Entire Year
  • What it's like when your whole life is self-improvement
  • "Know what you want" is about having a more immediate presence of mind
  • Could an imaginary "cursor" give us more self-control?
  • Reduce negative experiences to just the onset negativity
  • Life before introspection
  • Principles of self-realization: What's really happening in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
  • Cognitive therapy teaches that all introspections are suspect
  • Is everything in your head?
  • Can you change from an ENTP to an ENTJ?
  • New Age and the placebo effect
  • The 90-10 Rule of Happiness
  • How cognitive therapy evolves from correcting negative thoughts to correcting negative stimulus
  • What causes depression? Negative thoughts or negative events?
  • You can't always say "negative thoughts cause depression"
  • Cognitive Therapy vs. Positive Thinking
  • Is cognitive therapy the answer to low EQ?
  • The CBT default disputations seem to target an Asperger's mind
  • How were the default CBT disputation techniques chosen?
  • Method: Toward a unifying theory of self-improvement
  • Wants are many, needs are few. Needs are simple, wants are complex.
  • Over 5 years, how has self-improvement worked for me?
  • Is depression good for you?
  • How to stop over-thinking your life's problems
  • Finding purpose in work
  • "Undertow" as a word to describe the unpleasant effects of happiness
  • The secret to happiness (according to research)
  • Happiness in less than 200 characters
  • Money doesn't buy happiness. So what, should I quit my job?
  • How a book like The Loner's Manifesto works
  • What constitutes the happiness set point?
  • A case where ignoring someone doesn't work (RE: Shamu Book)
  • Positive psychology should also include some footnotes from philosophy.
  • Can self-help be a personality disorder?
  • What's really happening with mid-life crises, quarterlife crises, empty-nest syndrome, and teenage ennui
  • Do people become experts in areas of deficiency?
  • How changing the way you socialize can change your life
  • The self-help principles behind diaries
  • What I think about self-actualization
  • Self-Help Reality Show
  • Listen to Your Dreams
  • Instant-contentment perspectives
  • More on "The opposite of love is not hate. It's indifference."
  • The ironic subtext of What Shamu Taught Me About Love, Life, and Marriage
  • Prediction: 50 years from now, a secular self-help book will compete in popularity and influence with the Bible.
  • The Empowerment Paradox
  • A Unifying Theory of Self-Help
  • What Shamu Taught Me About Life, Love, and Marriage
  • We CAN be good at happiness
  • The more eloquent the words, the more careful you should be to match those words to actions.
  • What is Reality Therapy?
  • The One Question that makes you happy
  • Life isn't about the elimination of fear or the eradication of sadness . . .
  • Why I don't judge people who do self-help, tarot, therapy, or religion
  • "There is no such thing as balance."
  • Add this to the warning labels on anti-depressants
  • "Too many people take drugs when they really need to be making changes in their lives."
  • The whisper of liberation from depression
  • How Tarot cards and vacations make us happy
  • What Americans should have done 10 years ago
  • One of the most compelling documents about humans and socializing (from an unlikely source)
  • How I used Stephen Covey's Principle-Centered Living to change my life
  • What do you do when your heart, mind, intuition, and gut disagree?
  • I'm not a loner, but I'm not really its opposite.
  • Introducing Self-Programming, my approach to self-help
  • When your friends have unrealistic dreams
  • The Best of the Best Advice Books
  • The Meaning of Forgiveness
  • How do I break the habits that keep me from finding Mr./Ms. Right?
  • Short post on the meaning of vacation and recreation
  • Security is no contentment
  • What is Intentional Living?
  • Follow interesting people, not interesting topics
  • Ten 10-min. Relaxation Videos
  • How do you stop the endless chatter in your mind?
  • 6 Seconds To Relax
  • The Highest Success
  • A Stillness Movement
  • When meditation fails, focus on net relaxation
  • Relaxation IS a Panacea
  • If It's a Good Idea Don't Do It
  • Don't Build Your Happiness On a Tower of Babble
  • What to do when you can't find something
  • Self-discipline is write in front of you
  • Relax right now
  • DTFMA
  • Maybe nothing is wrong with you
  • Transitioning from an ENFP to an ENFJ
  • What Excel taught me about value-based living
  • How to confront someone
  • A little prod to your creativity
  • Negative-space thinking and its application to The 7 Habits
  • A universal principle for socializing
  • The greatest love of all
  • What is the meaning of life?
  • Why pessimism is a bad idea.
  • Basics of optimism
  • What if depression is much simpler?
  • Extra Cognitive Therapy Method -- Substitutes
  • Supression versus Repression
  • Can Cognitive Therapy change my tastes?
  • Cognitive Therapy's "Self-explanation" (no. 7) method explained
  • core beliefs (from Cognitive Therapy, Basics and Beyond)
  • How Aesop can help you grow
  • Happiness can be measured
  • Solving problems with the "pursuit of happiness"
  • positive emotions
  • Persuading yourself to change
  • autocidal goal, i.e. goals that undo themselves (this post becomes autocidal in the end anyway)
  • What is happiness? Here is my definition lifted from Seligman, the psychology master.
  • A small success story of positive thinking in action
  • Move over Dr. Phil and Jenny Craig, humans need an exercise-regiment for the heart, not the body
  • How forgiveness can improve the meaning of your relationships
  • How does the self-programmer deal with the command prompt that is the mind?
  • convincing myself I'm average
  • self-acceptance helps you work in groups
  • work better in groups
  • be thoughtful in your responses
  • on forgiving by accepting ppl's faults
  • on dealing with unwanted thoughts